All agree that the demand to balance motherhood and work is an important "issue" in American society today; but that very designation can trivialize motherhood, preventing us from actually seeing how difficult, on a day-to-day basis, it truly is.
Through portraits and testimony from 26 moms, mostly from high-powered fields (including entertainment), Leslie Morgan Steiner personalizes and makes real the challenges faced by mothers who choose to either stay at home or work. Susan Cheever, Jane Smiley, and others shed light on various facets of the mother experience, and what comes through is that it can be exhausting, frustrating, and far more challenging than we think. Marriage is still not a 50-50 deal, and society only seems to works against mothers. Worse, the two groups are often pitted against each other, and much guilt is felt whatever choice a mother makes. The rewards of motherhood do not go unstated in THE MOMMY WARS, and the experiences in this book offer ways of coping and getting others to pitch in, at least a little.